I Don’t Understand, And I’d Like To

My Philosophy of Questions, Grandma’s phone, give and take, and more, on this weeks episode of The Distracted Philosopher.

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People are mean. Not just some but ALL people, or at the very least it’s 99.9% of the human race. There may be more polite, friendly people out there, but it’s always the mean ones that get the most attention. People are mean when they disagree with others - It’s human nature, but I can’t tell someone to stop being mean. It’s like telling someone to calm down. Never in the history of the world has anyone calmed down by being told to calm down.

This is because of someone’s beliefs, their core self, the drive in their soul that powers their beliefs, is in complete control. Facts and points don’t matter. Logic is irrelevant.

But people don’t always know what that drive is because they have never done a self-introspection. Because they don’t care. Because it’s something they believe.

I approach people for which I disagree (and that’s a great many people) with simple philosophy. I call it, “I Don’t Understand and I’d Like To,” or IDUILT for short.

My goal is to ask questions for which I genuinely don’t know or understand the answer. I plead ignorance on the subject giving them a chance to feel superior to me and give themselves a chance to explain their belief without having to defend it.

I simply ask, “I don’t understand, could you please explain?” This may be followed by, “Why?” and head nods as I listen to what they say. Actually listen. I’m not just waiting to talk back at them, I’m genuinely listening for content. Because I don’t understand why they believe what they do and I really want to know.

I never judge their content negatively and remain calm (because people hate it when you actually remain calm). Although I’ll keep questioning until I discover if they are an idiot or a genius. Until I get to the heart of their beliefs. Until I discover that drive in their soul from which their beliefs are so strongly held.

I may not be able to change their beliefs, but at least I’ll know what’s behind it and maybe get them to think about that. Only then can they change themselves.

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This is episode s10e05(370) for Monday, January 30, 2017 and clocked in at 19 minutes, 06 seconds